Whenever you’ve made any meaningful change in your life, chances are there was one common thread.
You had a sense of urgency.
Maybe you were fed up with your current situation – clothes not fitting, energy non-existent, a body you don’t recognize when you look in the mirror.
Maybe (though, hopefully not) you had a recent doctor visit and received an ultimatum: Start exercising and change your diet, or you’re going to experience some health consequences.
Maybe you had a deadline, an upcoming wedding, graduation ceremony or holiday.
Whatever it was for you, the sense of urgency was the one common thread.
If we’re comfortable with where we are, change is unlikely to happen. It’s when we leave our comfort zone, sometimes by choice, but often because we’re forced to, that real change happens.
If you’ve ever been resistant to change or, if you’re resistant to it right now, that just means you’re human. We’re all reluctant to change in some form or another. In order to break that pattern, it’s important to understand the source of your resistance.
You’re either in a state of:
Denial: You can see the facts but choose to ignore them because that’s easier than making changes.
Rebellion: Most of us don’t like being told what to do. The status quo feels safer than the unknown.
Resignation: You’ve convinced yourself that you “can’t teach an old dog new tricks,” and would rather accept the consequences of inaction than the consequences of taking action and “failing.”
If you know deep down that you’ve got to make some meaningful change, but are finding reasons not to make them, take a look at the three states of resistance above.
Does any of them sound familiar?
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Michał